According to the film maker of "One Week", if you have to ask then you're not. I would like to know, though, if this includes the many times you ask yourself if you're really in love with a person or if it's worth it when the going gets rough. It seems to be human nature to question everything we do or say after the age of 7, why is love the exception? And when it comes to love should we follow our hearts or our heads?
What if there is a person that makes you happy, most of the time, and when your heart doesn't skip that beat when you look at them your head starts to question what you are doing with them. You might miss them when you go away, but wish for a more startling spark when with them. Does this mean that there is no love or are we just searching for something that doesn't exist and ignoring the fact that the reason you miss the person when away is because you love them?
Are we looking for a love that is unattainable?
Perhaps Disney is blame for this with his tales of princesses and white knights. So instead of blaming your significant other (which in itself is a horrible turn of phrase that places someone on an unreachable pedestal) when it seems that the 'spark' has gone out, let's lay blame where blame is deserved.
Let Disney create the theme parks and let the rest of us create the love stories.
My belief is that love becomes 'stale'
ReplyDeleteYou fall into routine with the one you love and that spark gets left in the wake of said routine.
Love is work, and Disney fails to show that... when it gets to that point of questioning that is when we must put effort to find the spark.
These days it is too easy to find ways out of love... look at the divorce rate...
And that old cliche... absence makes the heart grow fonder... is so true.
And absence does not necessarily mean physically going away far... just taking a break from the everyday sameness could be enough.
Love you girl....thinking of you... wishing you could be home for a visit!